For my entire school years all the way up to Form 6 my parents never let me go out and come back late. That was made easier by the fact that I stayed so far away from town, wit no transport of my own, making it near impossible for me even to go out. So at home I stayed even when my friends called me for Mamak sessions, birthday parties, and all kinds of gatherings. I just had to bear with it and be patient.
University life was a blessing. I stayed in an apartment with my friends. No one questioned me why was I out so late. It was a great time; mamak every night with friends, going to KL and coming back late, etc..
Now I'm working 10km from my home thus travelling from home everyday. But I get fukin pissed when my parents question me why do I come back so late when I go out at night. I have my car. I have a steady income. I pay my own bills. When I come back from work, don't I have the right to do what I want? I am no longer a 16 year old that needs a 11 or 12 o'clock curfew! Its not like I'm coming back at 3 or 4am! At most its 1am and I sleep right after that and wake up at 7.30am for work. They want me back before 12am! WTF!!
Theres a serious generation gap! How many people actually sleeps by 12 now days.. Time is so limited that theres no time to spend it with friends and close ones. I work 6 days a week. So I cant go out late for 6 days in a week? And my house is in like a godforsaken jungle with friends and any sort of entertainment so far away. The only thing I have is my handphone and computer accompanying me every night. Let me live my life my way la! I have had enough of them keeping me under a shell!! This is happening too many times that I'm so sure that when I do my Masters or next job, I will definitely live outside!!
I could have told this all to my mum.. But I didn't. My parents somehow can't take even a little of my criticism. So I shall just keep quite. When my Masters or new job starts, I'm out..
And when she had to "advice" me.. after I had lunch at home during my office lunch break. Great mood-spoiler la. Instead of resting at home for another 30mins, I left for office..
How do I communicate with people who think that their generation ways are the best and only way to go about life? I know they want the best for me.. But part of that involves me having my freedom and not being over-protective.. Be understanding and open-minded.. I pray I do not do the same thing to my kids in the future..